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Goosie Gives her Free Relationship Advice to Teens...or others who may be muddling through any other stage of instability.

Free Relationship Advice for Teens

Goosie has some advice for teens who feel as though, at some point, they have been thrust into an emotional hormone-fuel-injected rollercoaster ride. You are becoming more independent, yet not quite getting to take the full rein. Your parents are letting you make more decisions of your own, but setting boundaries to keep you safe.

Of course, you think you have learned all you need to know to make it in life even though you have only started the process. Your parents have probably been relentless in attempting to guide your sorry ass, when sometimes the only way some of you are able to really learn about life is in the School of Hard Knocks.

You probably think that since you can drive, shop for your own clothes, pick up after yourself when being told, maybe cook a little and have a few friends and acquaintances, you know-what-you-know, and need to-know-no-more.

You have had some friends come and go. This week’s good friend could turn into next week’s number one enemy. As you experience these ups and downs, you are learning about life along the way.

A word of advice for when you start dating: Teen romance is a mixture of hormones, unrealistic ideas and the longing to become independent and free-from-parents. However, be careful. It is so easy to lean into a “clingy-type” connection with someone, whom you may think of as your “one true love”. Do you enjoy being a couple in your group of friends because it makes you feel wanted or special? Are you relying on your guy or girl to give you the self-confidence and assurance you may be lacking? It is so easy for teens who are still figuring out who they are to get caught up with what someone else thinks they should be. Don't let yourself fall into the trap of living through your partner. You have a mind of your own, so don't lose it in an unhappy relationship with someone. If this is happening to you and you are trying to overlook the obvious flaws, remember that you are not making yourself available to the life-shaping experiences that you might be getting otherwise.

You will avoid a truckload of heartache and misery if you date a number of people, casually, without getting into a serious commitment. Have you noticed that some teen couples seem like old married couples in the way they communicate, or should I say, don’t communicate? Why on earth do they want to put themselves through this torturous-marriage-like monotony? There is time for that way down the road. I think some teens are looking for that “forever” relationship but are too young and inexperienced to actually determine what type of person will ultimately be a realistic spousal-candidate to endure a lifetime. Much too often, than not, teens who wind up marrying around the 18th birthday find it almost always a marriage doomed to disaster.

Even as you probably will have friends of your own sex for decades, lasting teen love is not too successful. Just live life as it comes along so that you can naturally change as you age, getting wiser, stronger and more self-assured in the process. That way you may actually have a sense of who you are, where you want to go, and who you really want to end up with by the time you are "in the zone for marriage."

Just remember, your teen years are for having fun and getting to know the different types of people out there. As you go along and mature you will gain more knowledge than you can realize which will help you become an improved version of who you are now.